Acceptance

Apr 19, 2023#启发84

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I have a friend who is very harsh on himself to the point where he can't live a good life. He constantly blames and worries himself excessively over small mistakes, even losing sleep. This harshness stems from a desire for perfection, wanting to be a perfect person and not allowing himself to make mistakes or engage in things he can't control. Perhaps if we don't have such high demands on ourselves and learn to accept our imperfections and live harmoniously with ourselves, we will experience less pain. I also experienced something I couldn't accept. In 2022, I received a call from my father saying, "Your grandfather is not doing well." I was initially numb and didn't know how to face this reality. When I arrived at the scene and saw his lifeless body, my fear and worry reached their peak. I couldn't accept the loss of a loved one, so I went crazy and vehemently denied it. I became depressed and even tormented those around me. I was numb and felt unable to face it. I lost someone who loved me, and whom I loved as well. I looked at my grandfather's photo and regretted not spending more time with him in the past. It's always after losing someone that we realize our regrets. Later, in the process of dancing with this state, I developed a new balance and started a new life with my grandfather's expectations. Accepting regrets and embracing hope for a brand new life.

I have a friend who is very harsh on himself, to the point where he can't live a good life. He often overblames and worries about a small mistake, even losing sleep over it. As a result, he feels exhausted and unable to enjoy the beautiful moments in life. This harshness is a desire for perfection. He desires to be a perfect person and doesn't allow himself to make mistakes, so he dares not engage with things he can't control.

Perhaps if we don't have such high demands on ourselves, learn to accept our imperfections, and live in harmony with ourselves, we will experience less pain.

I have also experienced something that I couldn't accept.

In 2022, I suddenly received a call from my father, and he whispered, "Your grandfather is not doing well." At first, I was numb and didn't know how to face this fact. When I arrived at the scene and faced the cold body in front of me, the fear and worry in my heart reached its peak in an instant. I couldn't accept the departure of a loved one, so I went crazy and vehemently denied it.

I started to become depressed and even tortured the people around me.

I became numb, feeling unable to face it. I lost someone who loved me, and at the same time, someone I loved.

I looked at my grandfather's photo, regretting not spending more time with him in the past.

People always realize regrets after losing someone.

Later, in the process of dancing with this state, I developed a new state of balance and started a new life with my grandfather's expectations.

Accept regrets and embrace a brand new life with hope.